Setting and Achieving your Goals
you ever had a desire to do something with your life and yet this
seems like a pie in the sky dream?
people procrastinate and make excuses for not achieving their dreams. Sometimes achieving their
significant personal change in order to move out of their comfort zone. Here are some tips to help
you open yourself
to the possibility of change:
by identifying something you would love to do with your life and
assess this using the following questions.
ask yourself ‘what would having this or
achieving that mean to me?’ If one of your goals goes like
this, to own an expensive car, evaluate what owning that car would do
for you or mean to you. For
example you might answer that it would make you feel really powerful,
then ask yourself if there is anything else that could give you the
same sense of power. Answering
this question will establish how meaningful it is to you to achieve
your goal of getting a new car. The
answers could refocus you on a different goal.
way of doing this is to complete the following sentences: Owning
a new Mercedes is important to me because .[it
gives me a sense of power].
Having [a sense
of power] is important to me because of [Y].
Having [Y] is important to me because of …
Repeating this sentence a few times can yield your own underlying value
system. It might
happen that by undertaking this process that owning an expensive car is
incongruent with your value system.
get back to your goal and ask yourself why you don’t have it now or are
not doing it right now or are not taking steps right now to make it
happen within a particular time frame?
This brings up the excuse
example, ‘it is too expensive’, ‘I don’t have the energy’ or ‘I have too many other things to do’. Maybe for a long time, you
have been thinking about starting up your own business and yet you are
still working for someone else. One solution to is to break achieving
your goal down into small steps. For
example paying for the whole Diploma is expensive up front, but can you
afford to do a module at a time and pay accordingly?
achieving the goal attracts something negative into your life. For example obtaining that
promotion might distance you from your former peers or invite jealousy
or might involve longer hours and more responsibility.
Go back to looking at how the job supports
your value systems. Being
congruent is what is important to good mental health.
Also assess what you can control or can’t
control in a situation. One
thing that is certain is that we can’t change other people. We can only work on
the following sentence ‘I don’t want to get
the promotion because …….[it means too much responsibility]. Continue with ‘I don’t want [too much responsibility] because ……Keep
going with this line of questioning and see what that uncovers.
aware of the excuses we put in our way to prevent us realising our
goals or dreams is very important. Write
down these excuses and become pro-active in eliminating or reducing
these excuses. Imagine
you are coaching a friend who is like you, who has these excuses. What advice would you give? I am sure that you would
be much more proactive and solution driven with a friend than you are
with yourself. I am
also sure that if you did not know the answers, you would recommend to
your friend to ask someone who did, such as another coach or financial
advisor, fitness expert, etc. There
are always other people willing to give help and advice.
your vivid imagination to see, feel or hear yourself driving that
expensive car, or walking up to collect that Diploma hearing the
applause of your friends and family. It has often been said that if you
can’t imagine yourself achieving your goal, then it will be difficult
to achieve it for real. For
example if you have difficulty in imagining yourself having more money,
find out why?
popular excuse is ‘I am too old to do that’. How old will you be in
five years when you have completed your Diploma?
How old will you be in five years if you
do nothing about completing your Diploma?
Same age but … Again remind yourself what
achieving this goal will mean to you.
we worry about uncertainty. ‘It’s too risky.’
Well, no one can predict the future.
All we can do about uncertainty is to get
as much information and help about a situation as we possibly can, do
the planning and treat every challenge as a learning opportunity. As someone once said, if
you continue to do the same old things in the same old way, then
nothing will change.
you are happy with your goals, then make them SMART goals. That is, write down your
goals making them Specific, Measurable, Achievable,
Realistic and Time phased.
Establish a schedule of steps that need to
be taken to achieve your goals and carry out one of those steps within
24 hours of setting the goal.
that ‘the map is not the territory’
or ‘the menu is not the meal’. You are on a journey
starting at point A and ending at point B. Maybe you will take detours,
stop along the way to reflect or maybe you might decide to go to point
C instead. Enjoy!